Most Christians would never think of committing murder—taking the life of another person—but God says that fornication is equally wicked.What most people during courtship don’t seem to understand—is that touching and embracing (necking and petting) designed to pave the way to excite the passions for the ultimate act of sexual intercourse.
If you can’t be together without hugging and holding and squeezing—something is wrong. Your interest must be in of the girl (or the boy) you just married is really battered—and her face is re-arranged—and the doctor says “She will never quite be the same,” would you still be able to love her and take care of her?
True love is concerned about the total well-being of the potential partner, and is not merely a romantic dream about spending eternity in each other’s arms!
Jesus said, “Have ye not read that he which made them at the beginning, made them male and female, and said For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they twain shall be one flesh? Marriage originated at the time of creation; it is not a mere human invention.
In Genesis God says that a man should leave father and mother and cleave to his wife, and they two “shall be one flesh.” That text, given at the beginning of creation, says four things about marriage.
Step by step—if these habits are started, you’ll likely push back the barriers of what you permit—until it is almost impossible to avoid the act of a couple has proceeded to one level of intimacy, it is almost impossible to return to a less intimate level.
The couple who progresses from holding hands to the act of touching and embracing—can scarcely ever return to the less intimate level and be satisfied.
They prepare for marriage by further testing their love, further learning to make adjustments, seeking to correct faults, and making plans for the wedding day.
The couple should only enter into the betrothal period after much prayer, and with the full confidence that God has been leading.
One of the best safeguards to a pure courtship is a well-planned date—an evening filled with activities that are all planned—things to do and places to go that are planned in advance.
These are things to do, and places to go, in order to make your courtship constructive and filled with purpose.
There are other instructions related to choosing a good partner.