“See what the commonalities are between you and the guy,” he says.Greif cautions collegiettes not to get involved in activities that only he likes; he says, “You have to like them too.
“Complementary personalities can be a great match.” If you have difficulty being outgoing as well, Greif assures collegiettes that that’s totally normal. “People who are getting to know each other may not know how much silence to allow [because] silence can be uncomfortable if it goes on for too long...
but talking too much can shut down quiet people, too.” If all else fails, you can always get a shy guy to talk by asking him a question.
It’s hard enough trying to figure out what any guy is thinking, but it’s even more difficult to read a shy guy.
When you fall for a shy campus cutie, it may not seem easy to figure out if he likes you back.
All too often, their shyness is taken for bitchiness, being "too good for them," or "totally over it." So it may take a while for your friends to warm up to him.
Sure, he may just be acting passive aggressive, but odds are he’s not.
You probably shouldn’t quiz him on his opinion of the meaning of life, but asking about his favorite sports team can be a great opener.
How to Ask Him Out If you’re already friends with the shy guy you like, Greif tells collegiettes that while you should be comfortable with initiating a date, you shouldn’t rush things.
Greif adds that although this will make many shy guys comfortable, “some guys who appear shy are very interested in getting to know people and may feel more comfortable with a quiet talk/one-on-one situation.” A shy guy’s affection may not be obvious, but even the most bashful boy will show his interest with someone who makes him feel comfortable.
Although it may take more time for a shy guy to open up, if you follow this guide, he’ll be yours before you know it.
Unlike more outgoing guys, shy guys might need a confidence-boosting signal from you to give him the courage to make a move.