Maybe this is why French guys have the reputations of being so romantic, and… We trained them well (with some exceptions of course…pretty much every politician :-( Believe it or not, at the opposite of all the stereotypes, French people are much more about love than sex.
It’s only in American movies that I found out about this “let’s be exclusive” concept.
In France, pretty much once you’ve exchanged a kiss, it’s expected of you to be exclusive: you don’t chase several rabbits at the same time…
Even for a married woman to go out with a male friend who is single: I often travel to Paris by myself, Leyla and Olivier stay in Paimpol, and have dinner with one (or several) of our good male friend(s), single or not.
Olivier trusts me, and we both trust our friend(s), who would never make a pass at me.
I had a relationship with one of them for over a year.
We have shared wonderful moments, we spent nights and even weekends together…
Now, not everybody does that of course, some girls like to play, and sometimes lose themselves in the game, or hurt people. A Frenchwoman is expected to play her feminine side, and be “admired” for her beauty and wit among other qualities.
Frenchmen like to flirt as well, even if they know very well there is no hope of it leading anywhere.
Nor did I know about this first date, second date and third date business.