We had an above average conversation but I wasn't too excited by the whole thing.
I was, however, able to think of it as practice for my next date.
"There are five girls to one guy." Great.) And in light of a Tinder date I had scheduled about 10 minutes prior to our call, I asked her, judging from talking to me for about 30 minutes, what she thought I should work on. Then I confess that after doing a little digging (okay, a lot of digging with the help of a friend), I'm worried my date is a tad too short. " she asked me in a rather accusatory manner."Five foot three," I responded. "Put my dick away." Patti tells me I give off too much "masculine energy." I like to be in control, do all the planning (making the dinner reservations included), and anticipate what's next rather than let someone surprise me. I learned that there are three main reasons people typically don't find love:• Anxiety: Will I ever meet anyone? • Guilt and blame: It's my fault he broke up with me/I feel awful I broke up with him.• Confusion: What am I looking for? As per the experts' advice, I take an inventory of my past relationships to see the patterns that emerge.
Patti is a huge proponent of online dating ("If you are single and haven't tried online dating, you're the weird one" she tells me) so I proudly divulged my upcoming Tinder date night. Related: Subtle Eye Movements Determine Whether It's Love or Lust, New Study Finds"Okay so short is 5'8", 5'10". She tells me I "lead with my resume" and say things about what I do rather than about who I am. In each and every one I find myself putting my heart on the line most when I know it will get broken.
The past three relationships that I can call "real" were with men that told me in one way or another they weren't ready for anything serious. Of course, the truth is, a serious relationship is the thing I wanted the most.
I, "showing my dick," talk a lot about my job early on—how busy I am! How could I blame them for backing out when I hadn't entered into it honestly myself?
Because he’s assessing you, and if you say, ‘No, I never want to get married,’ and you really do, and he’s looking for a marriage-minded wife, you just lost your window.” Are you taking notes, Don Draper? Never talk about sex.” This rule will seem particularly harsh to younger generations, who have grown up on sexting and the overripe adolescences of Miley Cyrus and Britney Spears.
But teens and 20-somethings be warned: “Generally, men who speak about sex in the first couple dates are trying to feel you out to see how far your kink is on ...
Don’t Use Them for Therapy Bravo’s other reality-show stars would do well to heed Stanger’s third rule. She doesn’t want to know how your short-selling ways helped bring Lehman to its knees.
Job woes, childhood complexes, mental-health issues, recent deaths in the family, divorces, child-custody battles, lawsuits, jail time, war crimes: all best left in the closet. “Even if you’re the greatest person in the world, we’re going to put you in the negative category.” Baggage dumping is apparently a big problem on first dates, “especially if you have too much to drink,” which brings us to:4.
And even though I'd never wear a Hervé Léger bandage dress on a first date (granny chic is more my style), I've always felt like Patti Stanger "gets" me.
Patti is a no-nonsense, ambitious straight-shooter—all characteristics I think people would use to describe me.
“Never bring up religion and politics,” says Stanger.