Not even momentary lapses were allowed; there is no female equivalent of the boys-will-be-boys concept.” ― Judith Martin, “Nowadays, we never allow ourselves the convenience of being temporarily unavailable, even to strangers.
As the amount of affection increases, the entertainment can be reduced proportionately.
When the affection IS the entertainment, we no longer call it dating.
Before that, it was understood that one of society's main tasks was matchmaking.
People with lifelong friendships and ties to local nonprofessional organizations did not have to fear that isolation would accompany retirement, old age, or losing a spouse.
“There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered: entertainment, food, and affection.
Under no circumstances can the food be omitted.” ― Judith Martin “The invention of the teenager was a mistake.
” In civilization there have to be some restraints.
If we followed every impulse, we’d be killing one another.” ― Judith Martin “There was no singles problem until singles got so single-minded that they stopped wasting time with anyone ineligible.
Overburdened householders could count on the assistance not only of their own extended families, but of the American tradition of neighborliness.” ― Judith Martin, “The rationale that etiquette should be eschewed because it fosters inequality does not ring true in a society that openly admits to a feverish interest in the comparative status-conveying qualities of sneakers.
Manners are available to all, for free.” ― Judith Martin, “College women are typically given to declaring for one or the other (in my day, for marriage; now, generally, for careers), and only later finding to their surprise that they must cope with both—while their men may be trying to figure out how to get out of doing both.” ― Judith Martin, “DEAR MISS MANNERS: Should you tell your mother something if it is important when she is talking to company? GENTLE READER: Yes, you should (after saying "Excuse me").
It is always a comfort to know that so many things one can’t afford to do anyway are vulgar.” ― Judith Martin, “GENTLE READER: You, sir, are an anarchist, and Miss Manners is frightened to have anything to do with you.