Oh and just to be clear: Commenting on how a woman could be your Nubian queen or your sweet Oriental flower is not substantive.
Online dating: It is not that hard, and yet so many people make it so hard.
I’ve been documenting OKCupid atrocities for a while now, and a lot of themes crop up in the terrible messages that daters send me for, um, critiquing.
Sure, it’s a pain to actually read through profiles and send unique messages to each person, but aren’t you here to find a date?
Learn a little something about the person you’re messaging, and reference that in your communiqué.
This is how to send a semi-decent online dating message in nine easy steps.
A one-sentence message probably isn’t saying enough, but you also don’t want to send a novel.
You’re better off ditching the crappy, manipulative dating tactics and sending a nice, normal message.
Unless both of you make it clear in your profiles that you are on this site for sex and only sex, keep the message PG – yes, even if there’s a mention of something sexual in the person’s profile, and yes, even if you think your sexual reference is cute or funny or clever.
So don’t whine about your lack of a love life, don’t lament the fact that you’re such a nice guy but women are such bitches, and definitely don't threaten to kill yourself because you’re lonely. If you want extra credit (and a better chance at a response) be a little bit witty.