person I have ever known in this world has admitted to periods of sheer insecurity.
They looked at themselves from the perspective of someone else — perhaps a person with no appreciation of their talents, personality traits, abilities—and judged themselves unfairly according to the perverted view. I grew up with bad acne, braces, and a twin sister who was in the popular group. At times I can pull off the image of a self-confident author and writer, but it usually lasts as long as the speaking event or lunch with my editor.
In fact, since pride is considered to be the origin of sin (Saint Augustine), then humility would be the greatest spiritual virtue.
Don’t berate your partner for being too quiet, or continuously ask, “during every lapse of conversation.
An overwhelming urge to fill every second of silence with needless words is a habit of an insecure person.
It’s easy to find your partner’s weaknesses and assume that he or she doesn’t love you, and when you compare relationships, you’re much less likely to compare your partner’s positive traits to other people’s negative traits.
Accept your partner for who he or she is and work on your relationship where it is rather than aspiring to emulate a relationship that might not even be real.
If you have a disagreement about what constitutes a fundamental need, you might need to get out of the relationship or find another way to meet your needs.
No two people think exactly alike, and what might mean absolute rejection to you could just be an oversight or misstatement by your partner.
Confirmation bias is a psychological phenomenon that causes people to look for evidence of what they already believe to be true.
If you’re convinced that your partner doesn’t love you, you might see his or her failure to say he/she loves you on the phone as irrefutable evidence that love has died.
Mind reading can contribute to insecurity when you make assumptions about your partner’s thoughts rather than asking him or her about them.
If you’re feeling unsure of something, express this to your partner and ask for clarification.
Stop psycho-analyzing every word choice your partner makes and be more present in the moment so you can notice the message behind their tone, physical presence, and posture.