The Intimidation Factor Next, occupations such as school teacher or nurse are more traditional female roles that are considered much less threatening or intimidating than police officer by men.It isn't just men who have trouble with the women they're dating being officers.
Why is it that what seems fairly black and white for us when we deal with other people's relationship issues on calls usually ends up being a giant mess for us as female police officers?
I've asked myself, are there special challenges for me because I'm an officer?
Always put your safety first, even when you are really lonely. 1 1/2 years after this promotion you are still together, deeply love each other. Ive been to HR we do not have a fraternization policy. Feels like the bullseye is on him that even though the town attorney, manager etc have said off duty we can. Somedays, I just want to turn my stuff in and quit.
If you wouldn't want your best friend to do it, you shouldn't either. However, my agency has only about 50 officers and the rumor mill has been so out of hand.. Im just struggling with everything and don't even know what to do anymore. Just so confused I think you summed it up pretty well.
I have 15 yrs on in the biggest PD & I don't date cops, so I totally understand. It is exactly what you said, a notch on the belt or an intimidation factor.
I actually find most of the male cops are actually married to stay at home moms or women that are rather docile & subservient. Women look for equals, men look for the damsel in distress.
As police officers, we deal with people in tense situations every day and take it in stride.
Then why is it such a challenge for us when it comes to our dating lives?
This is a result of men getting married and no longer dating, older men dating younger women, and the higher male mortality rate.
So by the time a woman reaches her Forties, the pool of men for her to date is considerably smaller.
But it takes more than the Constitution to make us happy. and im underneath the bed scared to death cause hes got his glock on and your ninas under the pillow and im holding in my cigg smoke but idont know Fear..yea! They become different people, and the fact that they are in a male dominated profession makes any guy uncomfortable.