The story reflects what they said about themselves and their actions, and presents two very different points of view.
Objectifying other human beings – making them the fodder for your fantasies – is not necessarily a violation of consent.
However, if the fantasy is to manifest, mutual consent, negotiation and personal safety are of paramount importance.
When they delivered themselves for the promised rendezvous, instead of meeting a mother and her young daughters they would find a team of well-armed, cheerfully disgusted Delaware County police officers.
As a fantasy, her come-on seemed overbaked—not one daughter, but two!
Detective Michele Deery works in a cubicle in the basement of the Delaware County courthouse, in Media, Pennsylvania.
The only window is high on the wall, over a tall filing cabinet, and opens into a well, below ground level.
For others, the desire to explore the fantasy takes hold and pushes us to seek like-minded explorers with whom we can share our innermost desires.
In our everyday lives we are limited by morality, legality and prevailing social mores, but we are free to dive into rich and florid -- or even lurid -- fantasies safely in our minds.
Manifesting an “edgy” fantasy is something that is negotiated and proceeds only if all parties involved actively consent to participate.
In the BDSM realm, the gray area between fantasy and reality is full of negotiation: mutual expression of desire, consent, agreements to terms of safety, arrangements for after-care, etc.
Mollena Williams, an alternative sexuality educator and blogger, is a co-author of “Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities.” March 5, 2013 The power of fantasy lies in the capacity to explore, without restriction, the inner recesses and outer limits of our psyche.