If you don't have the opportunity, practice your behavioral profiling by using the visual cues at your disposal (think Sherlock Holmes who could infer occupation by looking at someone's hands). A person you've never met before may have been places and done things that you haven't yet or will never do.
If you find yourself constantly doing this wherever you go (and getting negative feedback), make sure you won't be bored by bringing along something to read or do to keep yourself amused. Follow me on Twitter @swhitbo for daily updates on psychology, health, and aging. 2011 I always enjoy hearing people's deepest secrets.
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Hi ecstasy, I think you've made a good point which, if I understand you correctly, means that you're sharing secrets with someone you know at least somewhat well.
And of course, there are "secrets," and "secrets" so I suppose it depends on what you're sharing and who you're sharing it with. Best, Susan Hi Ecstast, The reason why TMI should be carefully selected to be shared with just any otger person is because unfortunately there are people who are not genuinely good out there.
The Marquis de Sade, who fancied himself an expert on matters sexual, states in the introduction to The 120 Days of Sodom that "among libertines, it is commonly accepted that the most voluptuous sensations are transmitted by the organs of hearing" -- that is, that dirty talk is the most arousing form of sex.
One fictional character in porn films that became associated with the idea of men using sexual dirty talk with women was actor John Leslie's character of 'Jack' in Talk Dirty to Me (1980).
All you can think about is how much you'd like to escape.
Most people are somewhere in the middle on the introversion-extroversion dimension but everyone has moments of greatness and everyone has moments of utter failure when the pressure is on to be scintillating.
Add to these pearls of wisdom a little social psychology, and you've got a perfect formula for succeeding no matter who you're talking to or how much you dislike or are averse to meeting strangers. If the person seems uncomfortable with where the conversation is heading, shift gears.