Well this summer he decided that he would have a simple fling with a woman.do it all the time so what was the harm. Wrong, I found his phone being a problem and he hid the messages until i saw a message from Bradley. I knew who Bradley was and watched him play this game with me for about 6-8 weeks. I have add and that doesnt make me or anyone else with add the right to cheat on anyone just because we cant think clear.
I’m just not sure if i have to be understanding here or walk away? Im a 28 years old woman with ADHD and I live with my bf of two years.
Every time I see texts from other girls, it hurts me so much and he didn’t see anything wrong when he being stubborn. I was diagnosed as a child and take medicine somewhat regularly I sometimes miss a dose here or there but my main problem is that the medicine usually wears off by the time I leave work and when I get home I get into a lot of fights with my bf about the stupidest things.
He knows it’s all wrong and apologises sincerely when he’s calm but I’ve given him so many chances and it keeps carrying on.
I have 2 kids from my previous relationship and they already know he’s been texting other girls.
Read that again, you probably don’t hear it often enough. All marriages have their ups and down, but if one or both spouses have ADHD, the relationship is significantly more challenging.
The statistics are scary and at times you might not believe it’s possible to make a marriage work with ADHD in the mix. Two people, two lives entwined, every day, under one roof…and ADHD.
As the years go by, you know more about each other. Often you find yourself thinking, what happened to the person I fell in love with? Resentment sets in, secretly hiding in the background of your lives. Speaking while angry causes damage to your partner and to the relationship.
The more comfortable you get in relationships, the more you take them for granted. With ADHD, life can be lived impulsively or haphazardly. Take space for yourself to manage your feelings and pick your battles.
Well here we are now in counselling, he is back on meds and I find myself in a position of anger, crushed, heart broken…etc. He keeps telling me that he can’t think straight and i understand this but betrayal, not cool and I don’t know if i can forgive him. Move on and grow from this and focus on urself and better yourself and be happy.