At first, Webb thought that women who used opening lines such as "I'm a fun-loving girl that enjoys…" and "I'm a laid-back girl who wants…" were dumbing down.
But such lightweight openers are disarming, approachable.
Check in with your friend during the date or ask your friend to call you during the date to let them know how you are doing.
Besides, this can be used as an escape clause if you feel like the date isn’t going well: “Hey Jim, my friend needs me because of an emergency and we have to end the date.” Third, drive yourself to the date and drive home by yourself.
There is safety in numbers and meeting for the first time in a restaurant or coffee shop would provide enough witnesses should the date turn sour.
Never – and I mean never – meet a man at his home or even think of inviting him to your home until you really get to know him. Yes, tell a friend or family member the details about where you are meeting, give them his contact details like name and phone number and any other additional information you have about him.
Meeting and building quick rapport is so easy online and lately I’ve noticed that women all too often let their guard down, lose their common sense or abandon their self protection to a total stranger.
Reflecting back to when I was single and looking after my divorce, I’m shocked at how easily a woman WHO I DID NOT KNOW would invite me to her home (having never met me before) after a few chats via phone/email/text.
However, is it really worth taking the risk for the 1-2% who might be dangerous?
As your heart protector, here are some common sense safety tips when you think he’s different: First, meet in a public place.
At 30, after a breakup that involved spotting her boyfriend draped around another woman, digital strategist Amy Webb decided to try meeting men online.
And she did: On JDate, Match.com, and e Harmony, she met guys who were six inches shorter or 30 pounds heavier than advertised; who picked expensive restaurants and passed the check to her; and who told her, mid drink, that they were married.
As a man who is an excellent communicator and emotionally connected, I was one of the most dangerous of daters.