Best advice for internet dating

One girl we spoke to told a story about a guy who sent her a hilarious quote from the movie she had mentioned in her profile.

Pick something specific she wrote about herself, and ask her a follow-up about it.

Instead of saying that you like sunsets, mention the best sunset you’ve ever seen.

Say which music you like, and your favourite place to see your friends.

By writing this in your profile, you’re telling people that you’re not smart or self-aware enough to write it yourself.

Most living grown-ups have a history of exes, hang-ups and maybe a nervous breakdown or two. They know that you have a past, but they don’t want to hear about it. Some online dating profiles read like shopping lists.

But obviously if she’s on the site too, you’re both in the same boat.

By pointing out your hesitations, she’s bound to assume you’re an insecure person. If you feel so inclined to explain yourself, wait to do it when you’ve met in person — and be confident about your reasons for joining.Specific information does more than make you sound interesting – it also gives potential dates something to write to you about.“I asked my friend to describe me, and here’s what he wrote…” is a cop-out.[pagebreak] INSECURE ONLINE DATERThe scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but...’” — Randi, 25 The problem..the solution: We get it.A lot of you are self-conscious about the fact that you’re on a dating site.What the hell are you supposed to say about yourself in your profile? [pagebreak] OUT-OF-TOWN AND OUT OF TOUCH The scenario: “A guy sent me a message saying that he wanted to meet up for a drink, but when I asked when he was free, he said he was ‘going out of town’ for the next two weeks and that we should schedule something after.” — Andrea, 31 The problem..the solution: If you tell a girl you’re “going out of town,” she’s going to assume you’re busy dating other women.

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