I must have forgotten that not all parents are the same.
Not all parents think that 14 year olds are kids, nor understand that having breasts and menstruation do not make these kids adults.
While her friends woke up to go to school, studying or eyeing on the most good looking guy in school, she has to wake up, get the breakfast ready for her husband and after school, while others went straight to bury themselves in homework and tuition, she has to cook, wash, clean the house before night time where she has to do her wifely duties.
I must have forgotten that once upon a time our Prophet Muhammad PBUH married Aishah, who was still a child and that is why some Muslims think it’s okay for a kid to get married.
I must have forgotten that once a upon a time, Mansor Adabi a teacher of 22 years of age married Natrah, who was then 13 and our grandparents thought nothing of it.
By this section alone, there are no guidelines or fixed criteria on what constitutes “certain circumstances”.
If there were guidelines, I just hope they are not parents’ consent, ability of the future husband to support and the girl has reached puberty!
Malaysian women have made it to the top echelons of organisations.
I am sure these women would not be where they are right now if they had gotten married at 14.
If my mum wanted to marry me off then, I would have rebelled and ran away from home because in my mind child marriages only exist in third-world countries where women were not educated, where her family had no means to support her and she had to depend on men.
I must have forgotten that Malaysia is a third-world country with third-world mentalities dominating our minds as if we had no other choice.
It lasted for 3 hours every day where afterwards I would go home and get ready to go to normal school ( this of course doesn’t mean that religious school is abnormal, I can’t think of a better description of a day school).