Veronica Roasio, also reported in the Bath Chronicle, said that women should remember “he earns a living and “so shields you from the world”.
“Do keep abreast of the days news, new books and new ideas so that you can hold your husband’s intellectual attention,” she adds.
They knew what was "normal." Prior to the 20th century, "normal" was determined within families and local communities, but now a "higher authority," with wide-spread circulation and readership, began to form a national consciousness. With the onset of the sexual revolution the question arose, "Why would a man court and woo a woman when he could gain a chief benefit of marriage, namely sexual gratification, for free with no commitment?
1930s dating guide for women
At the same time that the public entertainment culture was on the rise in the early 20th century, a proliferation of magazine articles and books began offering advice about courtship, marriage and the relationship between the sexes.
As Ken Myers says in , from the late 1930s on, young people knew, down to the percentage point, what their peers throughout the country thought and did.
One of the most obvious changes was that it multiplied the number of partners (from serious to casual) an individual was likely to have before marriage.
So one important point to understand right up front (and about which many inside and outside the church are confused) is that we have not moved a dating system into our courtship system.
Have you ever known a girl who went out with a guy who was a complete dolt but who could help her get ahead socially?
(And not to pick on women, it just as easily happens in reverse.) Those decisions are based more on economic theory of the 19th and 20th centuries than on any sort of biblical notion of desire for the opposite sex.Other pearls of wisdom included a direction from a vicar, given during a Mothering Sunday sermon as reported in the Derby Daily Telegraph. W M Irwin, the vicar of Duffield, Derbyshire, said: “Long faces and nagging did not get you your husband, and long faces and nagging will not keep them.” Mrs Dobbin Crawford, a Liverpool surgeon, 1930, said in the Bath Chronicle in 1930, never “criticise your husband even to your mother.“Nothing destroys the happiness of married life more than the lazy, slovenly wife,” she adds.Other words of wisdom include: “Don’t answer back; don’t spend money on yourself, don’t do anything he doesn’t want you to do.“Then, if you are not a happy woman, your husband at least will be comfortable.” Debra Chatfield, spokesman for the British Newspaper Archives, said: “These outrageous advice columns seem funny to us now, but at the time such advice was taken quite seriously by those who read them.Since most young adults will marry, the process employed in finding a husband and wife is still considered courtship.